Sunday, December 14, 2008

Mr. Stewart

Mr. Stewart ended his earthly journey this morning at 4am. Fitting somehow...this is the 3rd Sunday of Advent, Gaudete Sunday...the day when we sing "Rejoice!" He died as he wanted, at home, with his family.

Mr. Stewart was the first in-law, a distinction he took very seriously. Sometimes too seriously. But then, he was a serious man. He was a thinker. Quiet. Where everyone else in the family would greet you with effusion and big hugs, he was the one who hung back a little before offering a subdued "Hey, Lorraine" and a quick embrace.

I don't know that Mr. Stewart was always that comfortable with the family. Given his quiet, serious nature, I think our crazy was sometimes a mystery to him. He liked it but I'm not sure he always knew how to get down with it. On the other hand, I'm saying this about a man who once dressed in drag and danced an Irish jig at Thanksgiving, so maybe he was crazier than he let on.

Here's what I do know: he loved his wife very much. He loved his daughters very much. And he was an awesome uncle. He was the one who would sign on to take all the kids off on some adventure when the rest of the grownups wanted to do anything but.

The last thing we ever did together physically was hold hands and pray. The last thing he ever made me do was laugh out loud for a long time. And ding dong, that's saying a lot.

I've played this before. The Spouse was just shooting random video at a family Thanksgiving. Mr. Stewart and his daughter Hannah, the one who made him a grandpa, were talking about her buying a car. Very mundane, but The Spouse turned it into something else. And somehow it seemed like a fitting tribute. Maybe because I don't have any video of that crazy Irish jig.

Rest in peace, Mr. Stewart. I'm so thankful your suffering is over. You were dearly loved. We'll catch you on the flip side.

Hannah Und Heir Papa

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27 Comments:

Blogger The Idle Devil opined...

Prayers for his journey on the other side and for the family.

December 14, 2008 7:28 PM  
Blogger Lorraine opined...

Much appreciated, ID. Thank you.

December 14, 2008 7:36 PM  
Blogger sageweb opined...

Big HUG for you and your Family.

December 14, 2008 8:38 PM  
Blogger CRAIG and DIANE opined...

My thoughts and prayers on with the family as he takes his journey onward. May we all meet one day on the other side for a grand party of rejoicing.

December 14, 2008 8:58 PM  
Blogger Sling opined...

Goodnight Mr. Stewart.
May the Lord bless you,and keep you.

December 14, 2008 9:30 PM  
Blogger Lorraine opined...

Hugs back to you, Sage.

Craig & Diane, a grand rejoing indeed.

And He will, Sling. He will.

December 14, 2008 9:34 PM  
Blogger Pamelamama opined...

hugs xxoo

December 14, 2008 10:13 PM  
Blogger Caitlin opined...

It's all bright ahead
for him...

December 15, 2008 6:05 AM  
Blogger Anne opined...

Prayers for Martha, too, and for you and her together.

December 15, 2008 6:20 AM  
Blogger jp opined...

Very sad for your entire family but still happy that his suffering is finally over. God bless all.

December 15, 2008 7:07 AM  
Blogger Doralong opined...

Deepest sympathies from the right coast side of the clan. I grieve for your loss and the pain you, Martha and the children are and will be going through. But it is a blessing that he's no longer in pain, and that he had his loved ones there and is able to be at peace, knowing he was fully and truly loved.

December 15, 2008 7:54 AM  
Blogger Kimberly Ann opined...

My thoughts are with you all. Take care of each other.

December 15, 2008 8:39 AM  
Anonymous Syd opined...

My profoundest sympathies to all of Mr. Stewart's loved ones and friends.

"Death is that state in which one exists only in the memory of others...which is why it is not an end." (I hope quoting Star Trek: Next Gen isn't out of line, but I've always loved this line...)

December 15, 2008 11:24 AM  
Blogger rosemary opined...

Oh Lorraine how beautifully sad and a great tribute. Bless all of you.

December 15, 2008 11:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous opined...

Ba Ha Ha Ha (Note no w)

Ya. Condolenses to all, prayers for the sadness, more for the future of all those concerned.

Peace, Love, Harmony and Beautiful Thoughts.

Peace

:+}

December 15, 2008 2:51 PM  
Blogger Random Thinker opined...

My condolences to you and your family.

December 15, 2008 4:22 PM  
Blogger Miss Healthypants opined...

So sorry again, Rainey...but glad he's at peace.

December 15, 2008 6:33 PM  
Blogger Lorraine opined...

Hugs back, Pamelamama.

Indeed, Caitlin.

Thanks, Anne. A lot.

For real, JP.

Cuz, we should all be so blessed to go knowing that as certainly as he did.

Thanks, KA. We're all being extremely nice.

Syd, I for one find that to be a most fitting quotation. Thanks.

Thanks a lot, Rosie.

True that, Anonyba. The future will be a challenge for Martha and Co. but they are strong and they'll get through it.

Much appreciated, Random Thinker.

Me too, Rainey. There might be people who deserve to suffer but Mr. Stewart wasn't one of 'em. I'm glad that's over.

December 15, 2008 7:16 PM  
Blogger Lorraine opined...

Did you see what I did there, MHP? I called you "Rainey". That's funny. Hey, you try thinking of 17 original ways to say "Thanks for all your love and care, you bloggety types".

December 15, 2008 7:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous opined...

I really don't have words right now, as my brain is still a bit numb.I do know this, that though my heart hurts not having my Beloved here, I know that he indeed is rejoicing as he stands in the presence of Jesus Christ his Savior, and because He is my Saviour too, I will one day stand with Mr Stewart, being given the grand tour of heaven. Yes, Lorraine is right, he was quiet, really more reserved than quiet, and yes, he was crazier than he let most people see. He did love me and our girls, deeply. Thanks for the many prayers and thoughts during this time, it is humbly. I am honored. Martha

December 15, 2008 9:19 PM  
Blogger Lorraine opined...

I love you, Sisterface.

December 15, 2008 9:22 PM  
Anonymous MN Fan opined...

As we prepare to celebrate the birht of our Lord, please know that we offer our prayers of healing for you and your entire family. God bless you all.

December 16, 2008 5:49 AM  
Blogger Iwanski opined...

Lovely. God bless your family.

December 16, 2008 7:25 AM  
Blogger Lorraine opined...

Thank you for that, MNF.

And you too, Iwanski.

December 16, 2008 12:09 PM  
Blogger Seattle Coffee Girl opined...

RIP, Mr Stewart. We're praying for your family.

December 16, 2008 12:28 PM  
Blogger LostInColor opined...

prayers and hugs

December 17, 2008 5:56 PM  
Blogger booda baby opined...

Bless you all for having that much love to share. It is one big fat beautiful thing and sad but really wonderful too, to have such connections to celebrate and savor for forever.

I always liked that Scandihoovian flick of yours, but now I actually understand it. (Which immediately plucks it out of the Scandihoovian cinema ouevre or however that's spelled.)

December 18, 2008 9:42 AM  

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